Can You Truly Forgive Without Forgetting?

Can you truly forgive without forgetting? That is a great question. Most of us were told as children to forgive and forget when someone hurt or did something against us. I found that to be difficult and even sometimes impossible. While I found forgiving someone to be fairly easy, I could not always forget. I felt bad about this. I thought that made a terrible person. Have you ever felt that way?

Forgive and Forget

I mean sure, if someone took something from me or got mad at me or something that did not really impact my life. Those things are easier to forgive and forget and go on with life and the relationship. However, sometimes people can inflict such wounds on a person that they can be harmed for life. Some things can be forgiven, but not so easily forgotten. Have you been impacted in such a way? Do you need some relief so that you can be at peace and move on with your life? Can you truly forgive without forgetting?

Forgiving is Not Forgetting

What a relief! You can forgive someone for their offenses against you even if you can’t forget. It seems flippant to tell someone to just forgive and let it go when emotional and/or physical trauma has been experienced by the hand of another person. Sometimes much therapy is required for that person to recover and regain their footing in life. It may be that a boundary or even complete removal of the offender from the life of the offended is necessary. And that is ok. It is not wrong to protect yourself from further injury.

Does Forgiveness Always Mean Reconciliation?

Reconciliation can only occur when both people desire to mend the relationship. Even so, guard your heart. This is often the last step in the forgiveness process. The good news is that you can forgive your offender even without allowing them back into your life. Forgiveness is for you. It is to give you peace and comfort. If the offender actually asks for forgiveness, then it is a beautiful gift that is yours to give.

Listen to this great word from Max Lucado. You will be glad you did! I’m glad I did?

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If this video connected with you in some way, and you’d like to find out more about having a relationship with God and how His forgiveness and grace applies to you, a great place to start is praying the prayer below. The words themselves aren’t magic, but if you earnestly pray them and mean them, God will hear you! He’ll help you in ways you don’t understand, and we’ll help you find support and next steps.

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Jesus, I don't know You, and I don't know what Your plan is for me. But thank you for coming to die in my place. I'm sorry for anything I've ever done wrong in my life. I don't understand how You could ever forgive me, but if You really would, I would like to accept your free gift of grace and complete forgiveness. Please come into my life and take control, and help me trust You. In Jesus' name I pray,

Amen.

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