How many times this week have we complained about people being complainers? Have you become the complainer that you have complained about for years? Complaining can become a habit. The tendency to complain is passed from one person to another. Complaining can become the adjective that describes oneself, an inner group, a company unit, or the cloud that envelops our home and our lifestyle. Complaining is a negative force and is extremely exhausting, robbing us of the best in life. It limits our creativity and dampens enthusiasm. It replaces joy and clouds our ambition. Here are 5 Ways to Stop Complaining and Feel Better Today. These are starting points – add your own to the list. Let’s find some ways we can replace negativity with positivity for a happier life.
Drop this negative component from your lifestyle. You will feel younger, livelier, and freer. You will be more winsome to others.
Top 5 Ways to Stop Complaining and Feel Better Today
- Identify the reason for the cycle of complaint. Has it become a habit? Identify the cause.
Is it a situation that you can change? Life is not perfect. We must learn to adapt to numerous things in life, some of which may be abrasive. Make a list of the things that you complain about and highlight those that you may can help change.
Is there a situation that actually needs correcting rather than being the subject of continual complaints? Do you need to be proactive and enlist others, thus leading them out from their complaint ditch? Clarify your complaint list by determining those subjects that can be eliminated, separating them from those that may need to be reassessed.
Lead from a positive and well thought out position, encouraging others, rather than from a negative, demoralizing position. Formulate your opinions into ideas. Be honest with yourself about your own biases. Learn to adapt and accept some things. Life is not perfect. Some things you have no control over such as the traffic and the weather. Go with the flow on those things.
Be assertive while leading with changes that you have identified as generally beneficial. A well-thought-out positive suggestion carries more weight than a boat load of complaints.
- Count your blessings. Be positive. Make plans. Help change the situation, the work environment, the social health of your group or family.
Lead in setting goals. Devise positive approaches to nagging problems rather than giving in to the unproductive world of complaining. Be the non-complaining leader. Assist in setting goals. Give recognition of all improvement. Praise even minor successes. Be the great encourager. Drive out the weariness and negativity of complaining.
- Complaining is unattractive.
There is no positive energy radiating from a chronic complainer. Many may be caught up in group complaints because it truly is contagious. Learn to understand the difference in chronic complaining and in voicing a complaint to the proper people at the appropriate time. The latter is a very positive step.
Complaining slows productivity. You can set the standard by being dependable, creative, clear in voicing positive suggestions, spontaneous in your smile and laughter, extravagant in your praise of the accomplishments of others.
Clear the air. Whistle a tune.
“This is the day that the Lord has made – let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24.
Complaining is contagious: so too is joy. Spread the joy.
- It is difficult to exude love, joy, and peace on our own. Those wonderful traits are not based
on emotions or feelings. Joy is the decision we make to be committed to the wellbeing of others without condition or circumstance.
Joy is more than happiness. It is believing in God, obeying his will, receiving his forgiveness, and enjoying the fellowship of other believers. This is the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives, a work that lifts us out of the mode of complaining and complacency and into full and joyous living.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, good ness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22,23.
This inner work in our lives can replace the habit of complaining and thereby remove the negativity brought into any setting through complaining.
We can find joy and enlightening answers for the frustrating situations when we begin to step out of the world of a chronic complainer. We become more aware of truths and possible solutions. We become constructive workers, more congenial family members, as well as, individually, a more uplifting friend. There is added structural strength and increased confidence as we build lives that are removed from the mire of constant complaints.
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